Miscarriage of Justice
Salamu alaykum,
It's been weighing heavy on my mind, this miscarriage of justice.
There's a muslim friend of mine who has been married a little over 2 years and unfortunately I've lost count on the number of miscarriages she has had to
endure in the last two years. I know it is more than 4 but the pain must
feel like 400.
This last miscarriage shocked me to the core. She was going through some difficulty and I made dua for Allah to bless her with a healthy baby and then she tells me that she can't get pregnant because she is taking birth control. After the last several miscarriages the doctor told her to give her womb a chance to heal before trying again so she went on contraceptives. So she was on these and I said well yes you can just be late or miss a day. She said no she's getting the injectable once a month so there is no missing.
Lo an behold a month or so later she pops up pregnant! I was so happy thinking my dua for her had been answered. The pregnancy was hard she couldn't keep down any food and everything she ate she vomitted for 3 months then month 4 comes and she starts to bleed and the vomitting ends. She of course had quit her job as soon as she found out she was pregnant and was on semi bedrest and not doing anything for fear of unsettling the baby and having another miscarriage. So then when the bleeding started the vomitting stopped and the baby was expelled. It was a boy this time and she named him Yahyah. She gave him a good name and buried him then she made the dua Inna lilahe wa inna lilayhe rajioon. Allahuma jurney fee maseebati.... From Allah we belong and to Him Do We return. O Allah give me something better than what I had lost.
During the miscarriage she almost bled to death and had to have a transfusion with 4 pints of blood! This was during the first week of Ramadaan. And now of course she is hanging in there - she doesn't complain - she's never complained - she's been one of the patient - one of the steadfast - but she's tired of burying children and of course can't bear to get pregnant again with hope and then have it turn to despair.
I tell her all of the dua and the hope of her dead children being a way for her to enter jannah. I talk to her about getting checked out by a fertility specialist and well they've found nothing wrong. This is her test from Allah and May Allah grant her ease. She is also tested seeing me having 5 children and getting pregnant while making dua not to as I am overwhelmed with children and don't know what to do with it. I wish it were halal for me to use my uterus as a vessel to carry the baby for her but Allah has a plan for her. She who is so good with children who helped to raise her siblings who were seperated from their mom. She who waited to get married until she felt her brothers and sisters could be apart from her and not rely on her care as she knew when marrying a husband might take her away from them.
Please if reading this make dua for my friend. She has many children waiting for her in jannah but she would like to have one to raise down here. I want that for her so much and I will pray during these last 10 nights in sujood that Allah will bless her with a beautiful blessing and give her a child who will be a blessing to the ummah of Muhammad who will strive hard in Allah's cause, and be everything that a muslim mom would want. Ameen. Allahumma Ameen.
Allah does answer the dua of the believer if they are patient and don't despair.
It's been weighing heavy on my mind, this miscarriage of justice.
There's a muslim friend of mine who has been married a little over 2 years and unfortunately I've lost count on the number of miscarriages she has had to
endure in the last two years. I know it is more than 4 but the pain must
feel like 400.
This last miscarriage shocked me to the core. She was going through some difficulty and I made dua for Allah to bless her with a healthy baby and then she tells me that she can't get pregnant because she is taking birth control. After the last several miscarriages the doctor told her to give her womb a chance to heal before trying again so she went on contraceptives. So she was on these and I said well yes you can just be late or miss a day. She said no she's getting the injectable once a month so there is no missing.
Lo an behold a month or so later she pops up pregnant! I was so happy thinking my dua for her had been answered. The pregnancy was hard she couldn't keep down any food and everything she ate she vomitted for 3 months then month 4 comes and she starts to bleed and the vomitting ends. She of course had quit her job as soon as she found out she was pregnant and was on semi bedrest and not doing anything for fear of unsettling the baby and having another miscarriage. So then when the bleeding started the vomitting stopped and the baby was expelled. It was a boy this time and she named him Yahyah. She gave him a good name and buried him then she made the dua Inna lilahe wa inna lilayhe rajioon. Allahuma jurney fee maseebati.... From Allah we belong and to Him Do We return. O Allah give me something better than what I had lost.
During the miscarriage she almost bled to death and had to have a transfusion with 4 pints of blood! This was during the first week of Ramadaan. And now of course she is hanging in there - she doesn't complain - she's never complained - she's been one of the patient - one of the steadfast - but she's tired of burying children and of course can't bear to get pregnant again with hope and then have it turn to despair.
I tell her all of the dua and the hope of her dead children being a way for her to enter jannah. I talk to her about getting checked out by a fertility specialist and well they've found nothing wrong. This is her test from Allah and May Allah grant her ease. She is also tested seeing me having 5 children and getting pregnant while making dua not to as I am overwhelmed with children and don't know what to do with it. I wish it were halal for me to use my uterus as a vessel to carry the baby for her but Allah has a plan for her. She who is so good with children who helped to raise her siblings who were seperated from their mom. She who waited to get married until she felt her brothers and sisters could be apart from her and not rely on her care as she knew when marrying a husband might take her away from them.
Please if reading this make dua for my friend. She has many children waiting for her in jannah but she would like to have one to raise down here. I want that for her so much and I will pray during these last 10 nights in sujood that Allah will bless her with a beautiful blessing and give her a child who will be a blessing to the ummah of Muhammad who will strive hard in Allah's cause, and be everything that a muslim mom would want. Ameen. Allahumma Ameen.
Allah does answer the dua of the believer if they are patient and don't despair.
posted by Relief at 3:28 PM
3 Comments:
insha allah i will make dua for your friend and hope she does fall pregnant and have the baby shower her with so much love and affection ameen.
tell her to keep faith in allah as he is the provider of all things p.s also make dua for me as i have already one child mashallah but would like another one .
ameen
Salamu alaykum,
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Jazakallah khairun for your dua. My friend just had her first baby al hamdulilaah after 5 miscarriages so Allah is indeed merciful. This baby was a miracle as the doctor told her the baby had died in her stomach and he would schedule its removal and then it turned out not to be dead it was just too small to hear the heartbeat. So she was thinking for weeks that she had lost the baby and now this baby is about 6 months old and healthy and strong named Halimah! Al hamdulilaah.
Salaam, I was searching for sumthing else and came across tis blog. Insha Allah am going for Umrah tommorrow. I hope I get the chance to pray for her.
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